https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?action=history&feed=atom&title=Equanimity 2026-10-23T14:05:16Z Revision history for this page on the wiki MediaWiki 1.41.5 https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=185&oldid=prev 2025-06-07T10:58:41Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 12:58, 7 June 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion nor the thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion nor the thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">no </del>bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment|attached]], not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment|attached]], not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=184&oldid=prev 2025-06-07T10:54:42Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 12:54, 7 June 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">or </del>thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">nor the </ins>thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment|attached]], not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment|attached]], not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=163&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:52:07Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:52, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l2">Line 2:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 2:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment attached]], not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am [[attachment<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">|</ins>attached]], not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=162&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:50:03Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:50, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l2">Line 2:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 2:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">[[attachment </ins>attached<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">]]</ins>, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=161&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:46:18Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:46, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l2">Line 2:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 2:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going too far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">my </del>Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=160&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:44:57Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:44, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion or thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm. I do not refuse the emotion or thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought.</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">to </del>far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">too </ins>far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=159&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:38:13Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:38, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is between being equanimous and fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">. I do not refuse the emotion or thought. I allow it to be there yet I do not react to the emotion or thought</ins>.</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=158&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:36:22Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:36, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is <del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">that one should not </del>fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity. An important distinction is <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">between being equanimous and </ins>fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=157&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:35:41Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:35, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. An important distinction is that one should not fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness<ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">. Calmness is good for me and good for the world around me so I should go for equanimity</ins>. An important distinction is that one should not fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td class="diff-marker"></td><td style="background-color: #f8f9fa; color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #eaecf0; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>* I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> </table>

Mvmacke https://www.vipassanaexplanations.nl/index.php?title=Equanimity&diff=156&oldid=prev 2025-05-25T09:34:45Z

<p></p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 11:34, 25 May 2025</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. An important distinction is that one should not fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">* </ins>Equanimity is a strong concept in the sense that it forms the actual detachment and therefor creates my calmness. An important distinction is that one should not fight. There can be pain, there can be a thought, there can be an emotion yet, I stay calm.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">* </ins>Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">----</del></div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">* </ins>Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">* </ins>I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Once I start fighting these things, a distinction between me and the ´thing´ is created and most of the time, I loose (hmm, maybe all the time, maybe because in the long run I always have to give up...). I try to see it as a cooperation between the thing and myself. I allow the thing to exist however, I do not allow the thing to tell me what I should do. I do nothing. I stay calm. I experience the thing, it is there, it stays there as long as it needs to stay, in the long run it will disappear as there are no things that last for ever...([https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence anitya]).</div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">----</del></div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>Very often I understand why the thought or emotion is there. It takes care of me, it helps me to survive both practical but also in my social context. Also there are thoughts that are overdoing it. Yes, it helps in some way but it is going to far and really unnecessary. So I negotiate with the thought. I let it know that I understand it is there and why it is there. Sometimes, when I rest or when I meditate, I ask it to go, to no bother me no more. I ask in a friendly manner, it is a request. And that works! Most of the time I return to silence and I fall asleep or I deepen my meditation.  </div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><del style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">----</del></div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>I think now that the only problem I have is when I do not realize that it is just a thought. I already identify myself with it. For example my situation with my Madelaine. Everything I think and feel about this, is not separate from me, it IS me. I do not realize that these are just thoughts and they are not who I am.... I am attached, not detached.</div></td><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-added"></td></tr> </table>

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